Today it occurred to me that no matter how hard I try, I cannot “protect” my kids from everything. It’s funny, because in recent days Phil and I have been talking about how our oldest two children have been quite sheltered, and we are getting to the point in life where they simply need to know about certain things. For instance… although they do know that words exist that are never to be said, I sincerely doubt they could name more than a couple of them… and those they have happened on by pure accident. Ironically, they know more about where babies come from (as in how they get in there and how they get out) then most of their friends. I think that’s kind of funny, since the other kids can string together whole conversations using swear words… I guess it has a lot to do with what you value teaching your children. In a recent interaction, one of the kids’ friends got mad at another one and called him, “gay”. Man, was he ever offended. And Grace was just shocked, saying, “So what… gay means happy!” And she honestly had no idea whatsoever that there were other possible connotations.
At any rate... This post isn’t about words… or sex… or homosexuality. Not really, anyway… although there are some things we are going to have to bring our kids up to speed on before they start getting mixed messages from their friends who think babies magically pop out of their mommies tummies when the stork arrives…
What this post is really about is Halloween… really…
I am not a huge fan of Halloween. To tell you the honest truth, I get creeped out quite easily, myself. And trick-or-treating… I hate it. I used to love it… until I had kids. I went trick-or-treating myself after I was married… twice. I mean, come on… who doesn’t like free candy, but taking my five children door to door to ask strangers for candy… when it’s dark out… and the streets are busy… It just puts my nerves on edge.
Three years ago, we accidentally missed the night for trick-or-treating (not Halloween, go figure), so we raided Wal-Mart and bought tons of discounted candy with our costumed kids. Two years ago, we went trick-or-treating at Sea World. Now that was fun. Last year we planned a Halloween party, combination family worship event. And that was fun, too. This year we’re repeating. I think I’ve almost got my kids “detoxed” from traditional trick-or-treating… and with it, “detoxed’ from ghosts… and goblins… and witches… and monsters (except of course Mike and Sulley).
So yesterday Seth comes home from art class… and I am always thrilled to see what new project he’s created, so I step out into the kitchen to find two renderings of skeletons. Further, I read the note from his teacher explaining that they have been studying Mexico’s “Day of the Dead”… and so I take a moment to decide whether or not I can deal with this and then give the skeletons (which are pretty cool by the way) a place of honor on the refrigerator.
This is followed by our field trip to experience the orchestra, this morning. My understanding was that we would be hearing music from Star Wars (which my kids aren’t really familiar with, but I love), and so we settle into our front row seats only to realize that we are not going to be enjoying Star Wars but rather Harry Potter, The Legend of Sleepy Hollow, ghosts, witches, and even references to demons? Seriously? How the heck did I manage to buy tickets for this one?
In hindsight, maybe I should have marched our little gang out after I realized what was going on. Grace was sunken into her seat, nearly terrified, and Seth was sporting a sour look on his face, matched only by his exclamation, “what a waste of our lives…” Caleb didn’t seem to mind the content too much, but he was bored out of his mind, Ian was running back and forth between me and Grandma, and Miah just clapped at the end of every selection, because she is nearly 7 months old, so when people clap… she claps…
Our dissatisfaction with the program was probably only outdone by the poor little Amish kid sitting behind us…
I left some choice comments on the evaluation form…
When all is said and done, I don’t think this event is really going to have much of an impact on my kids’ lives. But I sure think we could have spent our time more constructively, this morning. And I just keep reminding them that, “Hey… it was really cool when the orchestra played the Star Spangled Banner at the beginning of the concert!” To which Grace replies, “Yeah, Mom… that was the only cool part.”
Live and learn…
Lisa
Happiest Place on Earth
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Drama…
… is not what it used to be.
I can’t remember, for sure, when I first heard the word “drama” used with negative connotations. I think it was probably around 6 years ago…
You wouldn’t think that significantly changing the meaning of the word drama would have any real impact on my life, but it did. Suddenly, when I wanted someone to participate in a role playing type thing, I had to ask them if they wanted to do some acting. It just didn’t sound as good, but if I asked them if they wanted to get involved in drama, they kind of looked at me like I’d grown a second head. Thankfully, Mrs. Darbis (from High School Musical) eventually supplied us with the word, “theater”… and that sounded a little bit better… sort of…
When I was in Jr. High (and… uh… maybe early High School, too…), I remember having “drama”. We didn’t call it that, but it existed. I do specifically remember the words, “drama queen”… so I guess the concept was there. Let’s not have anybody guessing who the drama queen was, OK…
At any rate, kids had drama, even then… back in the stone ages…
It usually had to do with the boyfriend of the month… or the popular kids thinking they were all that (and a bag of chips)… or your best friend stealing your boyfriend of the month… or your best friend becoming one of the popular kids and leaving you behind.
Drama was about who you would dance with when the slow music played and how you would balance your birthday party list so there would be the same number of girls and guys (which there never was). It was about having somebody to sit with on the bus until they were all old enough to drive and you still weren’t. Then it was about begging your dad to drive you to school so your friends wouldn’t see you actually getting off “the cheese”…
As I got older, it became about making a 4.0 the last semester of high school in order to graduate with honors (just barely) and convincing other kids that it wasn’t so incredibly beyond the realm of possibility that someone would choose to get married at 17 without being pregnant (or even ever having had sex).
It was about crying over not being the #1 Bible quizzer… again… or not receiving a scholar’s endorsed diploma because you missed the fine print about having to take a 4th year of science.
That was kind of my experience, anyway.
But the thing about drama is that it’s supposed to be a façade. And drama isn’t a façade anymore.
Now, to be fair, let me explain that this post is coming out of my thoughts about something very serious that happened in my town last night. I was at home with my kids (kind of a rare occurrence for a Friday night), and after they were all asleep I decided to take a quick look at facebook before I turned in for the night, too (kind of a regular occurrence every night). I expected to see my usual fare… cute updates from friends about their kids… baseball news… amusement park news… a couple of posts about what somebody had for dinner… and some teen drama thrown into the mix. For the most part, that’s exactly what I found… except for one post that caught my attention and had something to do with a shooting.
To be completely honest, it took me a couple of seconds to grasp the reality of it. At first I thought it was a new application I needed to block… or a joke… or something. As a photographer, I actually had to think for a moment about whether the post insinuated that pictures were being shot… or guns. Unfortunately, it didn’t take long to come to the conclusion that it was the latter.
I quickly sent a message to one of the teenagers I know who was on and within minutes had information in front of me about 4 teenagers (the news today says 5) who were shot near our bowling alley. I looked at the time and realized it was 10:12… just minutes after Phil should have sent the last teenagers home from the firehouse for the night. I ran upstairs to grab my phone. Upon opening my phone, I kicked myself for not having it on me, because a message had been left at 9:40. It was a staff member from another area youth hang out, calling to inform me of what I already knew. I hung up and called Phil… 10:13. He knew absolutely nothing about this and had, indeed, sent kids out to walk home within fifteen minutes. (Here I will digress for just a minute and say that it seems to me that in the case of a teenage shooting… with shooters at large… it would make sense for law enforcement to contact any places in which teenagers are known to hang out en masse. I understand that it would not be the #1 priority, but it ought to fall somewhere on the list.)
Of course, all of this set Phil into motion, calling the parents of the last kids who had left, getting the building completely shut down, and driving through the streets just to make sure none of “our” kids were still out. Mercifully, it started to rain, so there weren’t too many people on the streets.
As of this morning, the latest news article is listing one teenager in intensive care and all of them in stable condition. I cannot actually confirm the accuracy of this, but it is the best source I currently have.
What has affected me most, though, is the single word that keeps coming up in regard to this incident…
Drama…
As I continued to follow facebook feeds, kid after kid (and these are kids, let’s have no doubt about it) wrote about the drama… the fighting… and I just started to feel sort of numb to it.
I want to get in these kids’ faces and just shake them sometimes, proclaiming, “Drama is not real life!” What these teenagers experienced last night was not drama. What they experienced was real.
Now… I have no doubt that it very well may have started with drama. In fact, it might have started with drama much like I described from a 7th grade perspective. But at some point, this escalated. And I see a lot of that. It doesn’t generally escalate to a shooting, but it does escalate far beyond what teenage drama ever should…
I know kids who thrive on drama. They are not happy unless they are unhappy, and they tend to try to take everyone else with them. In fact, I have watched a few teenagers already “cashing in” on the adrenaline rush that this event is producing. They are going to be the ones who know everyone who was involved and create all the details to fill the gaps. Unfortunately, these kinds of kids almost never actually know what happened. It’s just yet another ploy to draw drama and attention to themselves (another reason why I am carefully selecting which kids’ pages I draw my information from and which ones I engage in conversation about this with).
And with that… if any teenagers are reading this today… let me caution you to be careful where you get your facts. To me, it seems like a very sick thing to try to capitalize on this, but there are kids out there who are going to try to be the heroes in this situation. Somehow, they will inflate the story beyond what it even is and look for a way to use this event to catapult themselves into the inner circle of popularity…
Seriously? Do we really need to inflate this story? I think it’s big enough, don’t you?
Let’s keep those who were involved in our prayers. And if the remote possibility even exists that an event such as this could cause us to re-evaluate the pressures and expectations we put on our teenagers, let’s do that, too. It is not as easy to be a kid today as it was when I was a kid (and that’s really not a million years ago… more like a dozen). I feel like teenagers are forced to grow up too soon now, and consequently they are dealing with issues that no one should have to deal with. As a side not, I also fee that teenagers are staying immature longer, and I think that is directly related, as well, to the inappropriate responsibilities we thrust upon them rather than the appropriate ones we let go. This is a post for another time, however.
For today, let’s be thankful for our families and pray for peace in our community.
Lisa
I can’t remember, for sure, when I first heard the word “drama” used with negative connotations. I think it was probably around 6 years ago…
You wouldn’t think that significantly changing the meaning of the word drama would have any real impact on my life, but it did. Suddenly, when I wanted someone to participate in a role playing type thing, I had to ask them if they wanted to do some acting. It just didn’t sound as good, but if I asked them if they wanted to get involved in drama, they kind of looked at me like I’d grown a second head. Thankfully, Mrs. Darbis (from High School Musical) eventually supplied us with the word, “theater”… and that sounded a little bit better… sort of…
When I was in Jr. High (and… uh… maybe early High School, too…), I remember having “drama”. We didn’t call it that, but it existed. I do specifically remember the words, “drama queen”… so I guess the concept was there. Let’s not have anybody guessing who the drama queen was, OK…
At any rate, kids had drama, even then… back in the stone ages…
It usually had to do with the boyfriend of the month… or the popular kids thinking they were all that (and a bag of chips)… or your best friend stealing your boyfriend of the month… or your best friend becoming one of the popular kids and leaving you behind.
Drama was about who you would dance with when the slow music played and how you would balance your birthday party list so there would be the same number of girls and guys (which there never was). It was about having somebody to sit with on the bus until they were all old enough to drive and you still weren’t. Then it was about begging your dad to drive you to school so your friends wouldn’t see you actually getting off “the cheese”…
As I got older, it became about making a 4.0 the last semester of high school in order to graduate with honors (just barely) and convincing other kids that it wasn’t so incredibly beyond the realm of possibility that someone would choose to get married at 17 without being pregnant (or even ever having had sex).
It was about crying over not being the #1 Bible quizzer… again… or not receiving a scholar’s endorsed diploma because you missed the fine print about having to take a 4th year of science.
That was kind of my experience, anyway.
But the thing about drama is that it’s supposed to be a façade. And drama isn’t a façade anymore.
Now, to be fair, let me explain that this post is coming out of my thoughts about something very serious that happened in my town last night. I was at home with my kids (kind of a rare occurrence for a Friday night), and after they were all asleep I decided to take a quick look at facebook before I turned in for the night, too (kind of a regular occurrence every night). I expected to see my usual fare… cute updates from friends about their kids… baseball news… amusement park news… a couple of posts about what somebody had for dinner… and some teen drama thrown into the mix. For the most part, that’s exactly what I found… except for one post that caught my attention and had something to do with a shooting.
To be completely honest, it took me a couple of seconds to grasp the reality of it. At first I thought it was a new application I needed to block… or a joke… or something. As a photographer, I actually had to think for a moment about whether the post insinuated that pictures were being shot… or guns. Unfortunately, it didn’t take long to come to the conclusion that it was the latter.
I quickly sent a message to one of the teenagers I know who was on and within minutes had information in front of me about 4 teenagers (the news today says 5) who were shot near our bowling alley. I looked at the time and realized it was 10:12… just minutes after Phil should have sent the last teenagers home from the firehouse for the night. I ran upstairs to grab my phone. Upon opening my phone, I kicked myself for not having it on me, because a message had been left at 9:40. It was a staff member from another area youth hang out, calling to inform me of what I already knew. I hung up and called Phil… 10:13. He knew absolutely nothing about this and had, indeed, sent kids out to walk home within fifteen minutes. (Here I will digress for just a minute and say that it seems to me that in the case of a teenage shooting… with shooters at large… it would make sense for law enforcement to contact any places in which teenagers are known to hang out en masse. I understand that it would not be the #1 priority, but it ought to fall somewhere on the list.)
Of course, all of this set Phil into motion, calling the parents of the last kids who had left, getting the building completely shut down, and driving through the streets just to make sure none of “our” kids were still out. Mercifully, it started to rain, so there weren’t too many people on the streets.
As of this morning, the latest news article is listing one teenager in intensive care and all of them in stable condition. I cannot actually confirm the accuracy of this, but it is the best source I currently have.
What has affected me most, though, is the single word that keeps coming up in regard to this incident…
Drama…
As I continued to follow facebook feeds, kid after kid (and these are kids, let’s have no doubt about it) wrote about the drama… the fighting… and I just started to feel sort of numb to it.
I want to get in these kids’ faces and just shake them sometimes, proclaiming, “Drama is not real life!” What these teenagers experienced last night was not drama. What they experienced was real.
Now… I have no doubt that it very well may have started with drama. In fact, it might have started with drama much like I described from a 7th grade perspective. But at some point, this escalated. And I see a lot of that. It doesn’t generally escalate to a shooting, but it does escalate far beyond what teenage drama ever should…
I know kids who thrive on drama. They are not happy unless they are unhappy, and they tend to try to take everyone else with them. In fact, I have watched a few teenagers already “cashing in” on the adrenaline rush that this event is producing. They are going to be the ones who know everyone who was involved and create all the details to fill the gaps. Unfortunately, these kinds of kids almost never actually know what happened. It’s just yet another ploy to draw drama and attention to themselves (another reason why I am carefully selecting which kids’ pages I draw my information from and which ones I engage in conversation about this with).
And with that… if any teenagers are reading this today… let me caution you to be careful where you get your facts. To me, it seems like a very sick thing to try to capitalize on this, but there are kids out there who are going to try to be the heroes in this situation. Somehow, they will inflate the story beyond what it even is and look for a way to use this event to catapult themselves into the inner circle of popularity…
Seriously? Do we really need to inflate this story? I think it’s big enough, don’t you?
Let’s keep those who were involved in our prayers. And if the remote possibility even exists that an event such as this could cause us to re-evaluate the pressures and expectations we put on our teenagers, let’s do that, too. It is not as easy to be a kid today as it was when I was a kid (and that’s really not a million years ago… more like a dozen). I feel like teenagers are forced to grow up too soon now, and consequently they are dealing with issues that no one should have to deal with. As a side not, I also fee that teenagers are staying immature longer, and I think that is directly related, as well, to the inappropriate responsibilities we thrust upon them rather than the appropriate ones we let go. This is a post for another time, however.
For today, let’s be thankful for our families and pray for peace in our community.
Lisa
Friday, October 22, 2010
Legend of the Guardians: The Owls of Ga'Hoole...
A Review...
It's kind of funny. It's been a long time since I so desperately wanted to see a movie, and I guess that says something for the power of advertisement. I can't tell you how many films I took in that had a trailer for Legend of the Guardians... (I'll make a guess at 3 or 4). At any rate, every time I saw the trailer, I was just excited about this movie. At least once, Phil leaned over and said something to the effect of, "You know... it's not going to be clean. They're going to put something in it..." I ignored him.
Well... early October kind of got away from me (imagine that), and one afternoon Phil made some comment about us going to see Legend of the Guardians, and I was thrilled when he informed me that based on the review at plugged in (which I frequent but hadn't had time to visit), he "thought" it looked clean. No kidding? We had a date with the owls...
Spoilers Ahead...
So we got to the theater a little late, but it doesn't really matter, because our theater of choice plays something like 17 trillion previews before each movie anyway. Including Phil, Miah (who was sleeping in her baby carrier), and myself, there were five people in the theater. We have a knack for taking in movies when no one else is...
I will say, right off the bat, that this is not a "little kids'" movie. I really get kind of irritated with people who think that anything animated or related to animals is a children's film. This movie goes in our PG-10 pile (which means that Seth can watch it, because he's 10, but he probably won't until Grace is 10... or maybe Grace will get to watch it when she's 9, because when you have a sibling who is just 13 months older than you, you sometimes reap the benefits of their age. Caleb and Ian will not see this one for a long time. Miah tried really hard to sneak peeks at the theater...) There is nothing overtly bloody or anything, but there is some violence (beyond like Jafar turning into a snake violence), and there are also some scary/intense scenes. I would be lying to say otherwise. There is also a moment in which war is described as, "Hell". So you have to be ready to deal with that one however you wish with your kids. I found this to be very contextual and accurate. Everyone may not. That's the "technical" stuff.
Now the plot... Oh, my... the teachable moments were many. Any film that encourages imagination... and dreams... and real heroes... and family... and the concept that you don't always have to see it to believe it... Well, a film like that is just going to get my stamp of approval. I will warn, though, that it's not all warm and fuzzy... particularly when Soren and Kludd (brothers) go their separate ways... one to follow his dream and fight for what is right... the other to follow just what makes sense, eventually to be plunged into evil (although it doesn't appear death... I am just now realizing that this is a long series of books, so obviously we have room for a sequel... or more...)
Ironically, it looks like Legend of the Guardians is based on the first 3 books, and if I had one complaint about the movie it would be that there wasn't as much plot development as I would have liked. It seems to me that maybe... just maybe... they could have focused on just the first book or at the very least, they could have made the movie longer (it was only an hour and a half). I don't know... perhaps this testifies to the fact that I am still able to be entertained by something that was written for 9-12 year olds. I am definitely going to be picking up the books...
My final analysis is that this is a must see for those who like epic tales... but you have to understand that it is not written like Lord of the Rings... or Star Wars... or even Narnia. In a lot of ways, I like that it is an epic tale of good and evil that I can share with my bigger kids, right now (or at least soon). Movies like the Lord of the Rings trilogy are still going to be waiting for a long time around here. I love the movies, myself, but heck... they give me nightmares!
However, I wouldn't shy away from Legend of the Guardians because you don't have kids. It's a good story that was captivating enough that I would watch it again on my own and am definitely looking forward to what happens next.
Lisa
It's kind of funny. It's been a long time since I so desperately wanted to see a movie, and I guess that says something for the power of advertisement. I can't tell you how many films I took in that had a trailer for Legend of the Guardians... (I'll make a guess at 3 or 4). At any rate, every time I saw the trailer, I was just excited about this movie. At least once, Phil leaned over and said something to the effect of, "You know... it's not going to be clean. They're going to put something in it..." I ignored him.
Well... early October kind of got away from me (imagine that), and one afternoon Phil made some comment about us going to see Legend of the Guardians, and I was thrilled when he informed me that based on the review at plugged in (which I frequent but hadn't had time to visit), he "thought" it looked clean. No kidding? We had a date with the owls...
Spoilers Ahead...
So we got to the theater a little late, but it doesn't really matter, because our theater of choice plays something like 17 trillion previews before each movie anyway. Including Phil, Miah (who was sleeping in her baby carrier), and myself, there were five people in the theater. We have a knack for taking in movies when no one else is...
I will say, right off the bat, that this is not a "little kids'" movie. I really get kind of irritated with people who think that anything animated or related to animals is a children's film. This movie goes in our PG-10 pile (which means that Seth can watch it, because he's 10, but he probably won't until Grace is 10... or maybe Grace will get to watch it when she's 9, because when you have a sibling who is just 13 months older than you, you sometimes reap the benefits of their age. Caleb and Ian will not see this one for a long time. Miah tried really hard to sneak peeks at the theater...) There is nothing overtly bloody or anything, but there is some violence (beyond like Jafar turning into a snake violence), and there are also some scary/intense scenes. I would be lying to say otherwise. There is also a moment in which war is described as, "Hell". So you have to be ready to deal with that one however you wish with your kids. I found this to be very contextual and accurate. Everyone may not. That's the "technical" stuff.
Now the plot... Oh, my... the teachable moments were many. Any film that encourages imagination... and dreams... and real heroes... and family... and the concept that you don't always have to see it to believe it... Well, a film like that is just going to get my stamp of approval. I will warn, though, that it's not all warm and fuzzy... particularly when Soren and Kludd (brothers) go their separate ways... one to follow his dream and fight for what is right... the other to follow just what makes sense, eventually to be plunged into evil (although it doesn't appear death... I am just now realizing that this is a long series of books, so obviously we have room for a sequel... or more...)
Ironically, it looks like Legend of the Guardians is based on the first 3 books, and if I had one complaint about the movie it would be that there wasn't as much plot development as I would have liked. It seems to me that maybe... just maybe... they could have focused on just the first book or at the very least, they could have made the movie longer (it was only an hour and a half). I don't know... perhaps this testifies to the fact that I am still able to be entertained by something that was written for 9-12 year olds. I am definitely going to be picking up the books...
My final analysis is that this is a must see for those who like epic tales... but you have to understand that it is not written like Lord of the Rings... or Star Wars... or even Narnia. In a lot of ways, I like that it is an epic tale of good and evil that I can share with my bigger kids, right now (or at least soon). Movies like the Lord of the Rings trilogy are still going to be waiting for a long time around here. I love the movies, myself, but heck... they give me nightmares!
However, I wouldn't shy away from Legend of the Guardians because you don't have kids. It's a good story that was captivating enough that I would watch it again on my own and am definitely looking forward to what happens next.
Lisa
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Happy 9th Birthday, Grace!
I am back blogging this post, because due to various computer storage issues, I did not have pictures to post until now...
Grace's 9th birthday was terrific! In fact, she said it was the best birthday ever, so I'm pretty happy about how it went down!
We experimented with homemade pumpkin pancakes for breakfast (I had some, myself, for the first time ever at IHOP earlier in the week), and wow... were they ever good!
It was a busy day in which we couldn't seem to get anything to come together in any reasonable amount of time, but Grace didn't mind, so Phil and I were the only ones who were stressed.
For the first time in MANY years, Grace did not choose Chuck-E-Cheese for her birthday dinner, but rather Golden Corral. Could it possibly be the light at the end of the rat infested cardboard pizza palace tunnel? Nah... we have three children younger than her...
We had a kind of pathetic b-day cake, but again Grace didn't mind, because Daddy served her an enormous piece that got us all laughing... she couldn't finish it all!
There's a story behind that candle...
No... wait... There's a candle behind that candle...
We were all out of 9s, but we managed to find a 6...
hehehe... epic fail! :)
Oh no... She's not excited at all...
So... I feel the need to explain the Dora book...
Grace lost a copy of this book when she was like 4...
She has never forgotten it or stopped asking us to replace it
(even though her interests are far beyond Dora now).
She kind of laughed when she opened it...
I guess she will read it to Miah!
My favorite part of the day, of course, is getting those birthday pictures. And so here she is... my incredible 9 year old princess without whom I cannot imagine my life. I love her so much:
Lisa
Grace's 9th birthday was terrific! In fact, she said it was the best birthday ever, so I'm pretty happy about how it went down!
We experimented with homemade pumpkin pancakes for breakfast (I had some, myself, for the first time ever at IHOP earlier in the week), and wow... were they ever good!
It was a busy day in which we couldn't seem to get anything to come together in any reasonable amount of time, but Grace didn't mind, so Phil and I were the only ones who were stressed.
For the first time in MANY years, Grace did not choose Chuck-E-Cheese for her birthday dinner, but rather Golden Corral. Could it possibly be the light at the end of the rat infested cardboard pizza palace tunnel? Nah... we have three children younger than her...
We had a kind of pathetic b-day cake, but again Grace didn't mind, because Daddy served her an enormous piece that got us all laughing... she couldn't finish it all!
There's a story behind that candle...No... wait... There's a candle behind that candle...
We were all out of 9s, but we managed to find a 6...
hehehe... epic fail! :)
That is one large piece of cake!
No doubt, present time was Grace's favorite. She got all kinds of stuff including hair things, shower gel, candy bars, magnets, books, and CDS. The "big ticket items" were the Lego Family House, Wii Sports Resort, and the New Tinkerbell Movie. By the time she was done opening things I think her head was spinning!
Oh no... She's not excited at all...
So... I feel the need to explain the Dora book...Grace lost a copy of this book when she was like 4...
She has never forgotten it or stopped asking us to replace it
(even though her interests are far beyond Dora now).
She kind of laughed when she opened it...
I guess she will read it to Miah!
Lisa
Friday, October 8, 2010
The Fine Line We Walk…
Like so many others, this post has probably been a long time in coming… and it could very likely get me into trouble, as many of my opinions are apt to do…
Last week I ran into an interesting situation while working the registration table for Friday Nite Fire. It was not unique, by any means… but interesting, nonetheless…
We had quite a few new students, and one of them struck me as particularly well mannered, interactive, and inquisitive. He spent a reasonably long amount of time chatting with me at registration and stopping back by the table throughout the night. He played a little bit with Miah, who was with me, and seemed to genuinely like babies. And it was not lost on me that he was dressed in girls’ clothing…
At some point during the night, another new student came and told me that she needed to go talk to someone at another popular youth hangout and that she would be back. We have a policy that you cannot re-enter the building after you sign out, so I let her know about this and she seemed rather distraught. She went on to tell me that the other organization had kicked her friend out earlier in the evening because he is gay and that she wanted to talk to someone about it, because it wasn’t right.
And now I had to choose my words very carefully…
I told her that I agreed with her that it is not right to kick someone out just because they are gay. I am nearly certain that this statement would have caused people to stop in their tracks if anyone else had been around. Thankfully, no one was… and here I am sharing this on the world wide web a week later…
I also told her that I still couldn’t let her check out and then back in again, and in the end, she and her friends decided to stay…
All along, I was smart enough to put two and two together and come to the conclusion that the new student I mentioned earlier was the kid who got kicked out…
Well… I didn’t really think a whole lot more about it until after our event was over and I got a phone call… on my cell… from someone at the other youth hangout. How this person got my personal cell number is a bit of a mystery to me, because not that many people have it, but I have got to assume that one of “my kids” (not my biological children, mind you, who were long since sawing logs, but one of my teenage kids) must have made his or her way over there after we closed and decided to make my digits public knowledge… (who knows what else they said)…
At any rate, there was a message on my phone saying that they couldn’t find a teenager who was supposed to be there, and wouldn’t you know it, I immediately recognized the name as yet another one of the new kids we’d had… and he was a foreign exchange student… so I figured I’d probably better call back and make sure we found him!
Once I got in touch with the person who called me, it was quickly discovered that the missing teenager had been found (I’m thinking he was probably missing for less than 10 minutes), and I was going to say, “Have a good night!” and then head on home… but wait… There was something else that they wanted to, “make me aware of”…
I took a deep breath… and I knew what was coming…
They let me know that earlier in the evening they had kicked a “young man” out because he was hitting on other young men. And they gave me his name. And of course, it was my new friend...
And now I had to choose my words very carefully… again…
So I simply said, “Oh… thank you for letting me know…” I mean… seriously… what else was I supposed to say? But I just felt like they didn’t think that was a strong enough reaction…
Now here I feel like I need to stop and say this. Over the years I have kicked guys out for hitting on girls and making them feel uncomfortable… or too comfortable… In the same way, I would not hesitate to kick a guy out for hitting on a guy… or a girl for hitting on a guy… or a girl for hitting on a girl… or whatever, if other kids are being negatively affected by it. Since I was not there at the other establishment, I cannot say, for sure, what happened. He may very well have come in and hit on guys and made them feel uncomfortable and been warned to stop and kept doing it and then been kicked out. If that’s what happened, then fine. But that’s not the behavior I observed from this student once he got to our building.
Basically, I thought this was going to be the end of the story.
Except my cell rang a few minutes ago… and since I didn’t recognize the number, I didn’t pick it up.
But there was a message.
It was from the same person who called me last week, just wanting to make sure that it had been clear to me that when they said the kid was “hitting on” someone, they weren’t talking about him actually hitting another student but engaging in sexual misconduct. Apparently there had been some sort of miscommunication about this? I’m thinking that maybe since we’re not open tonight a bunch of my kids showed up there and said that I thought their policies sucked or something… and by the way, I never did say that…
But… What exactly am I supposed to say?
Am I supposed to be like, “Oh my… thanks for clearing that up, because you know… I’m a moron, and I thought you meant he started a fist fight! We’ll make sure to lock the doors from now on whenever we see him coming”? (Yes, I’m sure that’s what Jesus would have done, right? – Please read the sarcasm here)…
Look… HE’S A KID! I am not… in any way… endorsing homosexuality with this post. But if I start kicking out every kid that comes through our doors who doesn’t fit into my exact mold of what the “perfect” person should be like, there won’t be any kids left! Heck… I won’t be left, either!
And so we walk a very fine line…
It is our responsibility to these kids to show them the love of Christ and to show them what it really looks like to follow Christ. It is our responsibility to teach… but it is not our responsibility to convict (that belongs to Holy Spirit) or to judge (that belongs to God). I often fear that we have no idea where our place is.
Lisa
Last week I ran into an interesting situation while working the registration table for Friday Nite Fire. It was not unique, by any means… but interesting, nonetheless…
We had quite a few new students, and one of them struck me as particularly well mannered, interactive, and inquisitive. He spent a reasonably long amount of time chatting with me at registration and stopping back by the table throughout the night. He played a little bit with Miah, who was with me, and seemed to genuinely like babies. And it was not lost on me that he was dressed in girls’ clothing…
At some point during the night, another new student came and told me that she needed to go talk to someone at another popular youth hangout and that she would be back. We have a policy that you cannot re-enter the building after you sign out, so I let her know about this and she seemed rather distraught. She went on to tell me that the other organization had kicked her friend out earlier in the evening because he is gay and that she wanted to talk to someone about it, because it wasn’t right.
And now I had to choose my words very carefully…
I told her that I agreed with her that it is not right to kick someone out just because they are gay. I am nearly certain that this statement would have caused people to stop in their tracks if anyone else had been around. Thankfully, no one was… and here I am sharing this on the world wide web a week later…
I also told her that I still couldn’t let her check out and then back in again, and in the end, she and her friends decided to stay…
All along, I was smart enough to put two and two together and come to the conclusion that the new student I mentioned earlier was the kid who got kicked out…
Well… I didn’t really think a whole lot more about it until after our event was over and I got a phone call… on my cell… from someone at the other youth hangout. How this person got my personal cell number is a bit of a mystery to me, because not that many people have it, but I have got to assume that one of “my kids” (not my biological children, mind you, who were long since sawing logs, but one of my teenage kids) must have made his or her way over there after we closed and decided to make my digits public knowledge… (who knows what else they said)…
At any rate, there was a message on my phone saying that they couldn’t find a teenager who was supposed to be there, and wouldn’t you know it, I immediately recognized the name as yet another one of the new kids we’d had… and he was a foreign exchange student… so I figured I’d probably better call back and make sure we found him!
Once I got in touch with the person who called me, it was quickly discovered that the missing teenager had been found (I’m thinking he was probably missing for less than 10 minutes), and I was going to say, “Have a good night!” and then head on home… but wait… There was something else that they wanted to, “make me aware of”…
I took a deep breath… and I knew what was coming…
They let me know that earlier in the evening they had kicked a “young man” out because he was hitting on other young men. And they gave me his name. And of course, it was my new friend...
And now I had to choose my words very carefully… again…
So I simply said, “Oh… thank you for letting me know…” I mean… seriously… what else was I supposed to say? But I just felt like they didn’t think that was a strong enough reaction…
Now here I feel like I need to stop and say this. Over the years I have kicked guys out for hitting on girls and making them feel uncomfortable… or too comfortable… In the same way, I would not hesitate to kick a guy out for hitting on a guy… or a girl for hitting on a guy… or a girl for hitting on a girl… or whatever, if other kids are being negatively affected by it. Since I was not there at the other establishment, I cannot say, for sure, what happened. He may very well have come in and hit on guys and made them feel uncomfortable and been warned to stop and kept doing it and then been kicked out. If that’s what happened, then fine. But that’s not the behavior I observed from this student once he got to our building.
Basically, I thought this was going to be the end of the story.
Except my cell rang a few minutes ago… and since I didn’t recognize the number, I didn’t pick it up.
But there was a message.
It was from the same person who called me last week, just wanting to make sure that it had been clear to me that when they said the kid was “hitting on” someone, they weren’t talking about him actually hitting another student but engaging in sexual misconduct. Apparently there had been some sort of miscommunication about this? I’m thinking that maybe since we’re not open tonight a bunch of my kids showed up there and said that I thought their policies sucked or something… and by the way, I never did say that…
But… What exactly am I supposed to say?
Am I supposed to be like, “Oh my… thanks for clearing that up, because you know… I’m a moron, and I thought you meant he started a fist fight! We’ll make sure to lock the doors from now on whenever we see him coming”? (Yes, I’m sure that’s what Jesus would have done, right? – Please read the sarcasm here)…
Look… HE’S A KID! I am not… in any way… endorsing homosexuality with this post. But if I start kicking out every kid that comes through our doors who doesn’t fit into my exact mold of what the “perfect” person should be like, there won’t be any kids left! Heck… I won’t be left, either!
And so we walk a very fine line…
It is our responsibility to these kids to show them the love of Christ and to show them what it really looks like to follow Christ. It is our responsibility to teach… but it is not our responsibility to convict (that belongs to Holy Spirit) or to judge (that belongs to God). I often fear that we have no idea where our place is.
Lisa
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Kinda Funny How That Works…
Today is an anniversary of sorts…
As I began this post, I thought about how it is the anniversary of the end of something… a sad sort of anniversary… one of those days that you don’t want to celebrate perennially… heck, one of those days that you really don’t want to remember at all… but you do… every year…
Ironically, the subject came up last night at dinner… with the kids, no less… and I found myself grappling for the words to explain so that my almost nine and ten year olds could understand why it is that we can’t just call up old friends and invite ourselves over to play… And it completely sucks to have nothing left to say but, “Well, (insert friend’s name here)’s family just doesn’t like us anymore”. (Not to mention the fact that that friend probably doesn’t even remember you’re alive, even though you have never forgotten.) And then as if that wasn’t hard enough, the answer that sustained these guys for the past five years suddenly wasn’t quite enough anymore, and the follow up came, “Why, Mom?”
I believe in being honest. In fact, I am sometimes so honest that I have been accused of having no tact… at all… I believe that when you’re at fault, you should take the blame. And so I do take the blame… almost every single time there is blame to be taken… because I also believe that it is nearly impossible to have a falling out with someone if you aren’t at least partially to blame in some way, whether by perception or reality. I have often taken the blame in situations, only to put them to rest. I have rarely had someone return and apologize to me… even when they were primarily at fault. I have on several occasions returned and apologized to someone else… even when I was primarily not at fault. And for the most part, I’m OK with that. But in this moment… over my cheese stuffed crust pizza (Oh, Pizza Hut… the irony continues)… looking into the faces of my kids… I decided that I really didn’t think I needed to take the fall for something I didn’t do… even if the general consensus remains that I was the problem…
And so the story began to unfold… the abridged version of course… in which I explained the principles of human nature that cause us to hate people because of who they are not…
I guess my tale was good enough, because when I was finished, Grace had put the anniversary thing together and told me that we should throw a party! I laughed (you know… that sinister, sardonic, sarcastic kind of under your breath chuckle). But now that I’ve had time to sleep on it, I think she might be right…
Because every event that marks the end of something must surely mark the beginning of something else…
And so the book has been a long time in coming…
I highly doubt it will ever be published except for my desire to print a few copies for myself…
But on this day, I will begin to release it one chapter at a time.
If you’re interested in my side of the story, please visit:
www.4yearjourneybook.blogspot.com
And somehow… I now find myself wondering whether I want to yell, “Let it Begin!” like Rhino… from Bolt… or, “It’s a Good Day to Die”… like the same character…
Lisa
As I began this post, I thought about how it is the anniversary of the end of something… a sad sort of anniversary… one of those days that you don’t want to celebrate perennially… heck, one of those days that you really don’t want to remember at all… but you do… every year…
Ironically, the subject came up last night at dinner… with the kids, no less… and I found myself grappling for the words to explain so that my almost nine and ten year olds could understand why it is that we can’t just call up old friends and invite ourselves over to play… And it completely sucks to have nothing left to say but, “Well, (insert friend’s name here)’s family just doesn’t like us anymore”. (Not to mention the fact that that friend probably doesn’t even remember you’re alive, even though you have never forgotten.) And then as if that wasn’t hard enough, the answer that sustained these guys for the past five years suddenly wasn’t quite enough anymore, and the follow up came, “Why, Mom?”
I believe in being honest. In fact, I am sometimes so honest that I have been accused of having no tact… at all… I believe that when you’re at fault, you should take the blame. And so I do take the blame… almost every single time there is blame to be taken… because I also believe that it is nearly impossible to have a falling out with someone if you aren’t at least partially to blame in some way, whether by perception or reality. I have often taken the blame in situations, only to put them to rest. I have rarely had someone return and apologize to me… even when they were primarily at fault. I have on several occasions returned and apologized to someone else… even when I was primarily not at fault. And for the most part, I’m OK with that. But in this moment… over my cheese stuffed crust pizza (Oh, Pizza Hut… the irony continues)… looking into the faces of my kids… I decided that I really didn’t think I needed to take the fall for something I didn’t do… even if the general consensus remains that I was the problem…
And so the story began to unfold… the abridged version of course… in which I explained the principles of human nature that cause us to hate people because of who they are not…
I guess my tale was good enough, because when I was finished, Grace had put the anniversary thing together and told me that we should throw a party! I laughed (you know… that sinister, sardonic, sarcastic kind of under your breath chuckle). But now that I’ve had time to sleep on it, I think she might be right…
Because every event that marks the end of something must surely mark the beginning of something else…
And so the book has been a long time in coming…
I highly doubt it will ever be published except for my desire to print a few copies for myself…
But on this day, I will begin to release it one chapter at a time.
If you’re interested in my side of the story, please visit:
www.4yearjourneybook.blogspot.com
And somehow… I now find myself wondering whether I want to yell, “Let it Begin!” like Rhino… from Bolt… or, “It’s a Good Day to Die”… like the same character…
Lisa
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
And So I Declare “Mulan” PG-13…
Before I begin; let me say that I know there are people out there who have already labeled me a freak… with a capital F… and I’m really OK with that…
Now that that’s out of the way…
You will be hard pressed to find someone who loves Disney more than me (although I do have a good friend who loves Disney as much as I do… thank goodness, or we might drive everyone else crazy)! I love Disney characters… and parks… and jewelry and clothing… and music and movies… pretty much all things Disney…
Over time, we have slowly introduced our children to the Disney Classics and the Disney “Instant Classics” (just gotta love that concept)… And I think it’s pretty safe to say that they love Disney, too…
“Mulan”… one of my longstanding all time Disney favorites… has been sitting in the “view to see if we want to show the kids this” pile for quite some time now. Last night I had the opportunity to go to bed at 10:00 (rare occurrence, let me tell ya), but for a variety of reasons, I wasn’t all that tired. So I popped “Mulan” into my laptop and let it roll while I snuggled my sleepy little princess Miah…
It had probably been at least 7 years since I’d last viewed the film…
Now… the main reason that it has stayed in the “wait until later” pile for so long is that I distinctly remembered “the ancestors” as being a teaching point for older kids. I was actually pretty excited to get this one out and work through to an understanding about ancient Chinese customs and such, including family honor, and it didn’t hurt that the history of the Great Wall was also explored to a certain degree. But I knew, for sure, that Grace would have a difficult time with Mulan and her family praying to dead people, and I needed to remember just how prevalent this theme was. To my disappointment, it was more prevalent than I remembered. Of course, “Mulan” originally came out in 1998, so the first time I saw it, I was already 18. At almost 9, I knew Grace would have a different take on things… Still, the bulk of this theme is concentrated at the beginning of the film, and I felt with careful conversation I could both prepare her for it and explain why it was OK for us to watch this, particularly as a learning experience… (and everyone stops and wonders if Lisa is trying to rationalize this particular movie because she likes it so much… but I don’t think that’s the case)…
With my view clear on that aspect of the film, I thought to myself, “Great… we should be in the clear… ‘Mulan’ movie night, here we come… maybe sometime next week?” …
And then the other “little” issue began to surface, and am I ever glad that I didn’t just say, “Oh… forget the preview,” and sit down with my kids and the remote…
There are a lot of sexual references in “Mulan”… If you’re laughing so hard that tears are streaming down your face, just send me a complaint and stop reading. I’ll understand. But really…
Mushu (dead dragon, remember) runs into Mulan’s chest, and she smacks him… He also tells Mulan that men like it when you smack their butts… and so Mulan does (now, seriously, I do not expect that Grace would start smacking little boys’ butts because of this, but if she did… well… I’d have a heck of a lot of explaining to do…) In addition, we have a bath scene at the beginning of the movie where Mulan is covered well by bubbles and her hair, but would I let my kids watch this in live action? And perhaps the most significant scene is where Mulan is bathing in a lake and several men join her (not knowing, of course, that she is a woman) for a swim. As Mulan escapes behind a bath towel and her horse, she says something to the effect of, “I never want to see a naked man again,” at which point a whole heard of naked men run by and Mulan’s eyes pop out of her head. Of course, we don’t see anything… but come on… we know what she saw…
So today, our family had lunch at the park. This was my first opportunity to tell Phil what I thought about the movie, and I simply said, “They can’t watch ‘Mulan’.” Phil looked highly surprised, which I found funny, because I consider him to be even more selective about what they’re viewing than I am (he may disagree about this). He asked, “Not even Seth and Grace,” to which I answered, “No,” and began to relay to him the things I just wrote here. And as we chuckled about all of the “bad” parts of the movie, he asked, “So… 13?” And I laughed harder… and so did he… as we declared this “G” rated movie a “PG-13” at our house…
Maybe we’re crazy… I’m pretty sure the birthday party attendant on Saturday must have thought so when she announced that we were going to play hot potato and listen to Miley Cyrus music and Grace and her best friend exclaimed, “Who’s Miley Cyrus?” (Followed by another party guest revealing that Miley is Hannah Montana and Grace and her friend being just as unimpressed as they were with Miley…)
We’re not trying to keep our kids in a bubble… hard as it may seem to comprehend that based on what I just wrote… But is there anything wrong with letting them be kids?
Seth (10) and Grace (8) have friends with cell phones… facebook accounts… and keys to the house. And I am so pleased that they still play with matchbox cars and My Little Ponies (well… let me clarify… Seth does not play with My Little Ponies… just Grace). I am completely ready to let them grow up when it’s time, but I do not want them to be jaded about everything “fun” in exchange for anything and everything they shouldn’t be involved in. There is a time for everything… and at 10 and 8, it’s still time to be a kid!
So bring on the go karts… and the video games… and the bowling parties… We will continue to build with Legos… and listen to Adventures in Odyssey… and laugh at old Herbie Movies and Jetsons reruns until they figure out that Mom isn’t really that cool… and then we’ll deal with the “coming of age” that comes with growing up… and hope that by the time Mushu instructs Grace on what men want, she’ll have a better concept of how ridiculously funny his lines are…
Lisa
Now that that’s out of the way…
You will be hard pressed to find someone who loves Disney more than me (although I do have a good friend who loves Disney as much as I do… thank goodness, or we might drive everyone else crazy)! I love Disney characters… and parks… and jewelry and clothing… and music and movies… pretty much all things Disney…
Over time, we have slowly introduced our children to the Disney Classics and the Disney “Instant Classics” (just gotta love that concept)… And I think it’s pretty safe to say that they love Disney, too…
“Mulan”… one of my longstanding all time Disney favorites… has been sitting in the “view to see if we want to show the kids this” pile for quite some time now. Last night I had the opportunity to go to bed at 10:00 (rare occurrence, let me tell ya), but for a variety of reasons, I wasn’t all that tired. So I popped “Mulan” into my laptop and let it roll while I snuggled my sleepy little princess Miah…
It had probably been at least 7 years since I’d last viewed the film…
Now… the main reason that it has stayed in the “wait until later” pile for so long is that I distinctly remembered “the ancestors” as being a teaching point for older kids. I was actually pretty excited to get this one out and work through to an understanding about ancient Chinese customs and such, including family honor, and it didn’t hurt that the history of the Great Wall was also explored to a certain degree. But I knew, for sure, that Grace would have a difficult time with Mulan and her family praying to dead people, and I needed to remember just how prevalent this theme was. To my disappointment, it was more prevalent than I remembered. Of course, “Mulan” originally came out in 1998, so the first time I saw it, I was already 18. At almost 9, I knew Grace would have a different take on things… Still, the bulk of this theme is concentrated at the beginning of the film, and I felt with careful conversation I could both prepare her for it and explain why it was OK for us to watch this, particularly as a learning experience… (and everyone stops and wonders if Lisa is trying to rationalize this particular movie because she likes it so much… but I don’t think that’s the case)…
With my view clear on that aspect of the film, I thought to myself, “Great… we should be in the clear… ‘Mulan’ movie night, here we come… maybe sometime next week?” …
And then the other “little” issue began to surface, and am I ever glad that I didn’t just say, “Oh… forget the preview,” and sit down with my kids and the remote…
There are a lot of sexual references in “Mulan”… If you’re laughing so hard that tears are streaming down your face, just send me a complaint and stop reading. I’ll understand. But really…
Mushu (dead dragon, remember) runs into Mulan’s chest, and she smacks him… He also tells Mulan that men like it when you smack their butts… and so Mulan does (now, seriously, I do not expect that Grace would start smacking little boys’ butts because of this, but if she did… well… I’d have a heck of a lot of explaining to do…) In addition, we have a bath scene at the beginning of the movie where Mulan is covered well by bubbles and her hair, but would I let my kids watch this in live action? And perhaps the most significant scene is where Mulan is bathing in a lake and several men join her (not knowing, of course, that she is a woman) for a swim. As Mulan escapes behind a bath towel and her horse, she says something to the effect of, “I never want to see a naked man again,” at which point a whole heard of naked men run by and Mulan’s eyes pop out of her head. Of course, we don’t see anything… but come on… we know what she saw…
So today, our family had lunch at the park. This was my first opportunity to tell Phil what I thought about the movie, and I simply said, “They can’t watch ‘Mulan’.” Phil looked highly surprised, which I found funny, because I consider him to be even more selective about what they’re viewing than I am (he may disagree about this). He asked, “Not even Seth and Grace,” to which I answered, “No,” and began to relay to him the things I just wrote here. And as we chuckled about all of the “bad” parts of the movie, he asked, “So… 13?” And I laughed harder… and so did he… as we declared this “G” rated movie a “PG-13” at our house…
Maybe we’re crazy… I’m pretty sure the birthday party attendant on Saturday must have thought so when she announced that we were going to play hot potato and listen to Miley Cyrus music and Grace and her best friend exclaimed, “Who’s Miley Cyrus?” (Followed by another party guest revealing that Miley is Hannah Montana and Grace and her friend being just as unimpressed as they were with Miley…)
We’re not trying to keep our kids in a bubble… hard as it may seem to comprehend that based on what I just wrote… But is there anything wrong with letting them be kids?
Seth (10) and Grace (8) have friends with cell phones… facebook accounts… and keys to the house. And I am so pleased that they still play with matchbox cars and My Little Ponies (well… let me clarify… Seth does not play with My Little Ponies… just Grace). I am completely ready to let them grow up when it’s time, but I do not want them to be jaded about everything “fun” in exchange for anything and everything they shouldn’t be involved in. There is a time for everything… and at 10 and 8, it’s still time to be a kid!
So bring on the go karts… and the video games… and the bowling parties… We will continue to build with Legos… and listen to Adventures in Odyssey… and laugh at old Herbie Movies and Jetsons reruns until they figure out that Mom isn’t really that cool… and then we’ll deal with the “coming of age” that comes with growing up… and hope that by the time Mushu instructs Grace on what men want, she’ll have a better concept of how ridiculously funny his lines are…
Lisa
Sunday, September 19, 2010
I'm Really Getting Frustrated...
... with school.
No one in their right mind has this many credit hours and no degree...
And I'm starting to get cocky, which is never a good thing...
I honestly thought this was going to get better with the transfer I made this fall to a "real" school, but it's not... not really anyway... And the problem is now that if I even had the audacity to transfer again, I'm not really willing to do it, because I need to finish a program in order to hang the all powerful piece of paper up by my desk so that Ian can tear it out of it's frame and fingerpaint it...
Seriously... is this even worth it? Don't answer that. It's rhetorical...
L.
No one in their right mind has this many credit hours and no degree...
And I'm starting to get cocky, which is never a good thing...
I honestly thought this was going to get better with the transfer I made this fall to a "real" school, but it's not... not really anyway... And the problem is now that if I even had the audacity to transfer again, I'm not really willing to do it, because I need to finish a program in order to hang the all powerful piece of paper up by my desk so that Ian can tear it out of it's frame and fingerpaint it...
Seriously... is this even worth it? Don't answer that. It's rhetorical...
L.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Seth Turns Double Digits...
Wow... oh, Wow... oh, Wow...Where did it go?
This morning...
We had homemade chocolate, chocolate chip, buttermilk waffles...
And we took pictures at the park...
This afternoon...
We had McDs...
And Seth opened his presents that seem to get smaller, yet more expensive, every year...
And we had cupcakes and ice cream (mint moose tracks for the kids... uh... yuck...)
On Saturday...
We'll head out to America's Incredible Pizza Company for a party...
And tonight...
I go to bed with a "baby" in double digits...
I love you Seth Matthew!
Pictures Follow:
Lisa
Saturday, September 11, 2010
May We Never Forget…
This morning, I woke up…
Much like other mornings, although since it is Saturday, I didn’t wake up to an alarm, but rather to a 3 year old crawling into bed with me…
I rolled out of that bed minutes later… banished Ian to the hallway so I could go to the bathroom… looked out the window and lamented that it is raining (I never lament the rain… actually, I love it… but I am supposed to do an outdoor portrait shoot this evening)… headed down the stairs… turned on the Wii… jumped on the balance board (well… not literally… you are not supposed to jump on the balance board)… and began my workout…
I thought about what we should have for breakfast… the birthday party we are going to later… and the rain (again) that I heard pounding on my windows and roof. I thought about Phil and the teens he took to a quiz this morning… and the schoolwork that I need to get done late this evening…
And then I thought (almost as an after note), “What is today’s date, anyway?”
And it was September 11th . And then I remembered…
I remembered waking up to make a bottle for Seth… walking into the “office” to get what I thought would be an update on the Tigers from Phil… plane image on the computer… tower burning… TV turning on… second plane crashing… second tower burning… phones ringing… no one reaching Dad, flying Detroit to Chicago… baby bouncing in the doorway with Cheerios all day long…
Fast forward to today again… I checked facebook…
And my friends are doing much what I did when I woke up. They are posting wedding pictures… heading out for soccer games… and football games… and first haircuts… celebrating births… and lazy Saturdays…
It’s ironic, but when the events of September 11th first happened, I thought we would never stop talking about it… and thinking about it… and for some time, that was true… Although the references come far less frequently now; I have had several occasions this past year when I have thought of September 11th sort of “out of context”. These thoughts certainly come every time I walk past the picture collage of our honeymoon… hung in our living room… with me on the ferry and the twin towers making up the backdrop…
I have done my best to explain September 11th to my children (only one who was even born at the time), and I think they “get it”… sort of… The conversations usually end with Seth saying, “Isn’t that the time I bounced all day long in the doorway with Cheerios?” and Grace saying, “Yeah… I was still in Mommy’s tummy!”
I realize as I look at my beautiful Miah (as she finishes up her breakfast), that she is probably going to understand the gravity of September 11th about as well as I understand Pearl Harbor. To her… it will be a history lesson. To those of us who lived it, it has changed life forever…
But Americans are resilient! I am starkly reminded of this as I go over the list of things we’re thinking about today! Terrorism has not robbed us of our celebrations… of our freedoms… of our fun… of our families… of our lives! And for that I am proud on this dreary Saturday morning!
But may we never forget…
And with that, I give a heartfelt thank you to all of our rescuers… fireman and women… paramedics… police officers… some who gave their lives in the September 11th rescue efforts… some who have given their lives at other times in the line of duty… and all who risk everything for our safety…
And I offer a heartfelt thanks to all of our service men and women who have risked their lives and often made the ultimate sacrifice to secure our freedom!
May we never forget…
Lisa
Much like other mornings, although since it is Saturday, I didn’t wake up to an alarm, but rather to a 3 year old crawling into bed with me…
I rolled out of that bed minutes later… banished Ian to the hallway so I could go to the bathroom… looked out the window and lamented that it is raining (I never lament the rain… actually, I love it… but I am supposed to do an outdoor portrait shoot this evening)… headed down the stairs… turned on the Wii… jumped on the balance board (well… not literally… you are not supposed to jump on the balance board)… and began my workout…
I thought about what we should have for breakfast… the birthday party we are going to later… and the rain (again) that I heard pounding on my windows and roof. I thought about Phil and the teens he took to a quiz this morning… and the schoolwork that I need to get done late this evening…
And then I thought (almost as an after note), “What is today’s date, anyway?”
And it was September 11th . And then I remembered…
I remembered waking up to make a bottle for Seth… walking into the “office” to get what I thought would be an update on the Tigers from Phil… plane image on the computer… tower burning… TV turning on… second plane crashing… second tower burning… phones ringing… no one reaching Dad, flying Detroit to Chicago… baby bouncing in the doorway with Cheerios all day long…
Fast forward to today again… I checked facebook…
And my friends are doing much what I did when I woke up. They are posting wedding pictures… heading out for soccer games… and football games… and first haircuts… celebrating births… and lazy Saturdays…
It’s ironic, but when the events of September 11th first happened, I thought we would never stop talking about it… and thinking about it… and for some time, that was true… Although the references come far less frequently now; I have had several occasions this past year when I have thought of September 11th sort of “out of context”. These thoughts certainly come every time I walk past the picture collage of our honeymoon… hung in our living room… with me on the ferry and the twin towers making up the backdrop…
I have done my best to explain September 11th to my children (only one who was even born at the time), and I think they “get it”… sort of… The conversations usually end with Seth saying, “Isn’t that the time I bounced all day long in the doorway with Cheerios?” and Grace saying, “Yeah… I was still in Mommy’s tummy!”
I realize as I look at my beautiful Miah (as she finishes up her breakfast), that she is probably going to understand the gravity of September 11th about as well as I understand Pearl Harbor. To her… it will be a history lesson. To those of us who lived it, it has changed life forever…
But Americans are resilient! I am starkly reminded of this as I go over the list of things we’re thinking about today! Terrorism has not robbed us of our celebrations… of our freedoms… of our fun… of our families… of our lives! And for that I am proud on this dreary Saturday morning!
But may we never forget…
And with that, I give a heartfelt thank you to all of our rescuers… fireman and women… paramedics… police officers… some who gave their lives in the September 11th rescue efforts… some who have given their lives at other times in the line of duty… and all who risk everything for our safety…
And I offer a heartfelt thanks to all of our service men and women who have risked their lives and often made the ultimate sacrifice to secure our freedom!
May we never forget…
Lisa
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